The College Success Habits Podcast
The roommate situation: Friends vs Friendly

The roommate situation: Friends vs Friendly

October 11, 2019

Ep 23 - In this episode, we discuss roommates and communication. Roommates are not required to be friends, but you are required to be friendly to one another. Learning this skill will pay dividends throughout your life as there will often be scenarios in which you have little control over who you are working with or who lives around you. Hopefully, you have control over who lives with you as move through college and on into your "real-world" life, but that's not always the situation either.

Heed these tips and strategies for a comfortable home environment.

  1. Your ability to communicate with your roommate(s) will be directly proportionate to how good of friends or how friendly you can and will be with them.
  2. You likely have only lived with family members so living with a relative stranger is going to be very different.
  3. If you choose to live in a city you will likely have roommates or a partner living with you most of your life - learning to communicate with maturity is essential in creating a happy, safe home environment.

Keys to remember:

  • You have to want to get along
  • Roommates are not required to be friends but are required to be friendly
  • Follow the uncomfortable rule

My top needs from a roommate

  • lock the door and windows
  • don't bring untrustworthy people/thieves into my house
  • don't use my things without permission
  • don't eat my food
  • clean up after yourself
  • respect quiet hours
  • the kitchen and bathroom are communal - respect that
  • lock the door and windows
 

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Beat overwhelm by simplifying your time management

Beat overwhelm by simplifying your time management

September 26, 2019

Ep #22 - In this weeks episode We discuss the time management strategy first introduced in episode #2 with guest Thom Rigsby.

Time management shouldn't take up so much time that you find yourself confused and overwhelmed by your scheduling and to-do lists. Utilize the simplicity of this method and win every day.

Time management books over-complicate things and can leave you just as baffled as to how to manage a busy schedule as you were before you learned their system.

In Thom's system, you simplify your to-do list to have just the 5 major moves that are most important for that day so you can go to bed feeling and knowing the day was a win.

What are your 5 major moves?

80% of the results come from 20% of the effort.

Priority
Focus
Focus
Focus
Focus

One of these items is going to produce 80% of the results - that becomes the Priority.

Implement this into your life and do it this way for a month and tell me you are winning every day and accomplishing more!

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Embrace problems and obstacles for ultimate success

Embrace problems and obstacles for ultimate success

September 13, 2019

Ep #21 - In this weeks show we discuss problems and how realizing they are a non-stop occurrence in our lives actually frees us up from the stress they induce because we expect them, instead of fear them.

Problems are opportunities to learn and grow. Running from the negative thoughts and feelings blocks your ability to experience the event and thus not learn what you need to in order to mature and evolve. Realize that problems are forever. You will never eliminate all the problems in your life. It is impossible. 

Get a good grade and your friend gets a bad grade - how will you handle your contrary emotions?

Get a raise and now you pay higher taxes. Get a new car and now you have greater expenses. Win the game and now you have pressure to win the next game. Get good grades and now you pressure yourself to get better.

No matter the situation you experience it will bring with it a whole new set of "problem" that are really just life situations you now get to experience so you can continue to grow.

Ask yourself these questions when a problem arises or you feel overwhelmed by college and life.

1. What is a problem you want to eliminate forever? Why?
2. If you were able to eliminate this problem, what new problem would take its place that you don't have now?
3. What do you think about the concept that problems and negative emotions are forever?
4. As a human being that has both positive and negative emotions, what do
you think about the idea that the good balance is half and half without any
buffering or false pleasures?
5. I believe that most of our dreams are on the other side of discomfort. What is your relationship with discomfort?
6. When we see problems as an unwanted or wrong part of life, we end up not growing. Why do you think this is?
7. If you looked forward to negative emotion and planned on problems, how
would your life be different?
8. Can you think of a problem you have had that ultimately created an equal
amount of positive contrast? Write it here.
9. Here's an idea...The bigger your dreams, the more problems you will have. The more problems you have, the more opportunity you have for the balance of positive emotion. Thoughts?

The above questions come from Brooke Castillo's Self-Coaching Scholars program I am in.

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To drink or not to drink - it’s more than just that question

To drink or not to drink - it’s more than just that question

September 6, 2019

Ep #20 - You are an accumulation of your habits: daily, weekly, monthly, semesterly, yearly, etc. What are you doing to decompress so you aren't relying on alcohol? Being in a small town is no better an excuse than being in a big city is - it's your mindset.

 

- You are an accumulation of your habits: daily, weekly, monthly, semesterly

- what are you doing to decompress so you are not relying on alcohol?
- plays, meetings, groups, organizations, movie nights, gym, reading, meditation, praying
- Being in a small town is not an excuse

- communicate with your best friends and family members

- friendship/inner circle

1. Taking responsibility for your words and actions
2. Not blaming others for the above
3. understanding what it is you are actually feeling and why you are saying it.

Self-Coaching model:

Circumstance/Event/External Force ---> triggers
Thoughts ---> cause
Feelings --->drive
Actions ---> create
Outcome ---> results provide evidence you will use next time that Circumstance/Event/External Force comes at you again - which will trigger this loop and recreate the behavior to the point it becomes a habituated response and slides into the unconscious.

Six human needs:

1. Certainty

2. Uncertainty/Variety

3. Significance

4. Love/Connection

5. Growth

6. Contribution

How your brain rapidly adapts to the new school year.

How your brain rapidly adapts to the new school year.

August 30, 2019

Ep #19 - You are building new habits by the 1000s over your first few months of a new semester. Your brain can adapt, learn, and grow in infinite ways and by knowing this you can turn its incredible power in your favor. This isn't the first time you have adapted to a massive amount of new experiences at once. Every new school year brought about these kinds of actions in you. You have a ton of background adapting - so don't let the anxiety monster get to you.

This is how life will be forever. People used to believe that the brain became fixed, could no longer learn new things, after a certain age. Newer research has revealed that the brain never stops changing in response to learning. Neuroplasticity is your brain's ability to adapt and change to anything and everything you experience in life.

It's a wonderful thing, so harness it now and turn your life into a gigantic experiment. It'll make new habit creation a joy and you'll be self-aware enough to know if the habit you are creating will lead you toward success or away from failure.

As always, I am honored you spent your precious time with me!

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You can’t turn work ethic off and on like a light

You can’t turn work ethic off and on like a light

August 23, 2019

Ep #18 - In this weeks episode we close out the book review and discuss Tenacity.

Choose to show up every day as the best version of yourself. Your attitude, mentality, emotional state - are all choices you get to make every moment, of every day. It's really simple. You have to show up every day and be present in your life.

Some keys to remember and thrive through:

Be where you say you're going to be when you say you're going to be there.

Don't change the way you act to impress others. (unless it is talking loudly to impress others with your stories or chewing with your mouth full - don't do that stuff.)

Don't hide behind the shy armor. 

Don't keep your hand down because you're afraid of the outcome.

Don't be a person you will reflect on one day and regret being.

Be the best version of yourself today.

Strive each morning to be better than you were the day before.

Action steps:

1. Know your why, envision your vision, and determine the outcome you want to achieve.

2. Have flexibility in your approach

3. Pay attention to the journey as it unfolds

4. Learn from each step along the way

5. Evaluate your purpose in going through this experience

6. Be non-judgmental in the way you connect your experiences and points of view to someone else's experiences and points of view.

7. Build a trustworthy social circle around yourself to support you in this endeavor.

8. Re-evaluate your purpose, the benefits, the vision, and your intended outcome regularly.

Move forward with this renewed perspective and review this list regularly.

I am always honored to have your time and ear each week. 

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Be extremely flexible in college (Hey! Mind outta the gutter;)

Be extremely flexible in college (Hey! Mind outta the gutter;)

August 16, 2019

Ep #17 - In this weeks episode we discuss principle # - Flexibility.

No...not that kinda flexibility - this isn't a yoga podcast. LOL

Flexibility is critical because through that pliability you will better overcome challenges, reduce your stress level (when things do go awry,) and ultimately be more successful than others (who are more rigid and set in their ways.) 

Flexibility is the ability to demonstrate a fluid approach to your work, relationships, and life. It is you being able to figure out a new way when an obstacle shows itself.

 Action steps to work through and follow. Write these down and go through them regularly.

1. Start small, end big.

2. Figure out your priority level for the intended outcome.

3. Stop, think, evaluate, move - STEM.

4. Alter your habits.

5. Try something new.

6. Release the stress

7. Trust yourself.

 Questions to ask yourself, work through, and follow. Write these down and go through them regularly.

  1. Am I inflexible in my small decisions?
  2. Am I selfish? 
  3. Am I setting healthy boundaries?
  4. Where can I compromise?
  5. What is my priority level for this?
  6. Where can I alter a habit to make it more positive?
  7. Do I trust myself?

Important: Am I using STEM 

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Accomplish anything through discipline.

Accomplish anything through discipline.

August 9, 2019

Ep #16 - In this weeks episode we discuss principle #5 - Discipline.

Anything worth accomplishing is going to take many steps, stages, and a hell of a lot of time. There are going to be hurdles and there will certainly be imbalances you have to deal with at some point. This is where discipline comes to play.

You will not achieve anything in life without having to overcome an obstacle that you did not see coming. 

Do you have the discipline to move through those hurdles, those barriers, those limiting beliefs that you've put in front of yourself? 

How to master discipline in your life. Ask yourself these questions, write down the answers, rinse and repeat frequently.

  1. What is your vision?
  2. What is your “why?”

  3. Build a habit around it.

  4. Are you being mindful and self-aware?

  5. Are you consistently stressing yourself out?

  6. Who is in your circle of influence

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An object in motion stays in motion, so be all about that action boss

An object in motion stays in motion, so be all about that action boss

August 2, 2019

Ep #15 - In this weeks episode we discuss principle #4 - Action. 

Procrastination and/or perfectionism are massive hindrances to action. Being action-oriented is crucial in life because its the only way you’ll know if the decision you made was the right one for you or not. 

In college, being action-oriented is insanely important because you have everything at your disposal, a world of opportunities. It is a rare time in your life when you will generally be surrounded by people seeking to evolve and propel their lives in a new direction. Getting into a rhythm, discovering your true self, and moving toward your destiny should be priorities in your university life.

How to take action? 

1. Get up and do something!

2. Realize the conditions to start will never be perfect.

3. Stop over-analyzing.

4. Take action every day.

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Be habitually decisive and confident in your decisions

Be habitually decisive and confident in your decisions

July 26, 2019

Ep #14 - In this weeks episode, we discuss principle #3 - Decisiveness.

Being decisive is crucial in life because we can often get stuck in the paradox of choice - too many options so we pick none.

Decisiveness is the ability to make a clear choice when presented with many options, yes, and it’s also the practice of moving forward with your decision with confidence and getting the most from the experience the decision affords you.

Making the decision then wondering if you should have chosen differently the whole time you are doing whatever it is you chose to do is not being decisive.

Make a choice and let it play out while you give it 100% of your effort all the way through. Do not stop a month in because it feels uncomfortable and scary. 

Discomfort is a signal you are growing, learning something new, and most likely the result of you truly becoming the person college will influence you to become.

You're in college, try new things out. You want to be a vegan, be a vegan. Then be a pescatarian, then a vegetarian - hell, eat only raw meat, under a pale moonlight, in the woods, if you want. 

You can make those decisions, just make them and move forward with the confidence you can always make another decision later.

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